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User: average_homos (posted by maxivor2278)
Date: 2011-12-21 01:28
Subject: Curious
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I would consider myself to be nonsexual. I just don't find anyone attractive whether they are male or female. Isn't sex overrated? People talk about it as if it is the greatest thing ever. I think that there have got to be other things that are more interesting. However, I don't know. I've never tried it.

I guess somewhere in the back of my mind that I am a little bit curious. What does it feel like? Doesn't it hurt? I would think that getting rammed by someone else would be painful and awful. What do you ever get out of it? Why would anyone want to do oral? Doesn't it make you gag? What exactly does it taste like? Isn't it awful and painful to the person giving?

Has anyone ever tried it with both genders? Does it feel any different?

Where do you get it? Do you just go on some website and find promiscuous people who offer sex to strangers? Isn't that a little dangerous? What if the person turns out to be a psycho killer or robber?
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candide: SATW::SurpriseYaoi
User: _candide_
Date: 2011-12-21 19:26 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
I have a saying about anal sex: "If it hurts, Yur doing it Wrong."

The reason some guys like bottoming is because (A) they have sensitive prostates; and (B) they can relax their anal sphincters. Once you've got that, it's just a matter of using enough lube and it won't hurt.

As for felatio: it doesn't make you gag. You're confusing oral for deep-throating. You can give someone a perfectly fine blow-job without swallowing the whole thing. ^_^

I've been with both genders, and I can confirm that it feels different … but not in the way everyone thinks. Man, woman, well-warmed Fleshlight … they all feel pretty much the same to the genitals. What's different is the interaction, the "energy" of the person that you're with. There is a definite "male" energy and a definite "female" energy, and it doesn't fit with our societal notions of male and female. It's more like the esoteric "elemental" associations to the sexes. Sex with a woman is more, well, "earth", more "water". Sex with a guy is more "fire", more "air".

If you have no libido, if you're asexual, all well and good. Your post, however, indicates a fear of sex, at least to me. If so, there might be something more going on there that the fear/distaste for sex is just a symptom of. Also note that lack of libido is one of the symptoms for unipolar mood disorder. Now I'm not saying that there's something wrong with you. But if you are actually afraid of sex, you might want to see a therapist to explore what that's a symptom of. You'll have to find one that's sex-positive and open-minded. Finding a good therapist is work, I'll admit. But, why put yourself through misery?
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